Personalise your Wedding Ceremony

How to Personalise your Wedding Ceremony

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One of the top wedding-related searches on Google is “Personalise your Wedding” as more and more couples strive to ensure their wedding day is absolutely true to them and their personalities.  So why not start with a personal wedding ceremony?

The beauty of hiring an Independent Celebrant like me to write and conduct your Wedding Ceremony is that the content is absolutely yours to choose and own.  It really is the perfect opportunity to completely personalise your day and make it different from everybody else’s!

Write your own Wedding Vows


To personalise things, couples should definitely try writing their own wedding vows to one another, but if you’ve no idea where to start there are tons of vow writing ideas to be found on the internet.

I send all my couples a long list of example Vows, Personal Promises and Ring Vows that they can use as a starting-off point to cherry pick and tweak or add their own twist to.  Wedding Vows can be short, simple and poignant, or much more involved.  They can be a few lines long or stretch to a full side of A4 paper!  Remember you’ll be reading these words out to your spouse in front of your loved ones so if you’re prone to being emotional it might be best to keep them brief!

Personal Readings or Poetry


Why not ask a friend or relative to write you a bepoke poem?  Alternatively they could read a particularly meaningful piece of prose or writing.  If you have a Celebrant-led wedding ceremony you are not bound to those restrictive civil marriage laws as you would be with a Registrar so if you wanted a religious text, prayer or blessing then that’s fine too!


Ritual and Symbolism

to personalise your Wedding Ceremony – there are so many lovely ideas that you might want to consider for your own day and here are just a few examples that have been used in Ceremonies I’ve written and conducted for my own clients:

Hand Fasting

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Here you can see one of my couples during their mini hand-fasting as part of their personal wedding ceremony at One Warwick Park in Tunbridge Wells.  You can see their hand-fasting cord bound around their clasped hands.

Rose Ceremony

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Here are two single stemmed roses which are about to be presented to both mothers of an international couple as part of their English Wedding Ceremony.  Other ideas could be a potted rose bush ready to plant in a garden, or a bouquet of roses (or any other flower for that matter!).  A lovely way to thank your Mum for her unconditional love as a parent.


Sand Ceremony

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After hearing that my couple got engaged in the Moroccan Desert and were going to be honeymooning in the Arabian Desert, we chose to incorporate this unity symbolism into their bespoke Wedding Ceremony.  I started by pouring a foundation layer of sand at the bottom of the glass vase, after which the Bride and Groom layered the two other colours together in a pattern, signifying that their lives were now intertwined and impossible to part – like the grains of sand.


Unity Candle Ceremony

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This symbolic candle lighting will make a ceremony really quite special, and is designed to celebrate the joining of two individual people in marriage, and two families coming together.  The two taper candles are lit by family members, and passed to the Bride and Groom who join those two flames to light the central unity candle. These sets can be personalised especially for you and easily purchased online from a number of retailers.


If you would like a personalised wedding ceremony that’s written just for you and tells your own love story please do get in touch.  Take a look at my Contact Me page or complete my Make an Enquiry form.  I’d love to hear your ideas!

Media and Magazine Articles


I am delighted to be appearing hot off the press in the latest edition of the fabulous Creative Brides inspirational wedding and lifestyle magazine.
My top tips for outdoor weddings can be found in the Festival Style Weddings feature pages 14-15.

The gorgeous Spring/Summer 2015 issue features:

  • 50 pages of wedding prettiness
  • Size A5 – perfect for your handbag
  • Unique wedding suppliers from across the South East
  • Latest trends, honeymoon hideaways,
  • DIY projects and floral crowns, real weddings and more…

Read it online here:

You can also read the Autumn/Winter 2014 Magazine here:

You’ll be able to pick up a free copy from Wedding Fairs across the South East or get one delivered to your door for the price of P&P here:  Order a copy!

Here is the Spring/Summer 2014 edition cover which features True Blue Ceremonies in the Q&A/Ask the Expert section.

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Creative Brides’ first magazine was published online only, and you can see here in all its glory Creative Brides Magazine Autumn 2013 – with some beautiful ideas for styling your wedding, as well as real wedding gorgeousness and lots of creative inspiration.


Don’t Take My Word for It

Don’t Take my Word for It – here’s what people have been saying about True Blue Ceremonies ….

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“There just aren’t enough words available to us to thank you for every single wonderful thing you have done for us.  You made our wedding magical, meaningful and completely and utterly perfect.  We both feel that we were married by a friend and you now have a very special place in our hearts.”  Clients Sarah and Ian after their bespoke wedding ceremony. 
“I cry my eyes out every time I read your beautiful words – how am I going to get through the ceremony?!  It’s so lovely, Katie – thank you so much!”  Client Gem, on reading her draft Wedding Ceremony.

“Katie that is amazing, got a lump in my throat reading it.”  Client Lindsey, on reading a first draft of her Renewal of Vows Ceremony.

“Hi Katie and so many thanks for performing a wonderful ceremony at our wedding last Saturday – the sun even shined for us.  A lot of people commented on how lovely and special it was – I can see why you have so many weddings now to perform!”  Clients Anne and Rob, after their bespoke garden wedding ceremony.

“If only we had known about this 7 years ago, instead of having to get married at 4.30pm in a hotel and rush through our celebrations.”  Nina, North Wales.

“We’re so pleased that we can recommend Katie to our Brides.  She is professional, friendly and always delivers beautifully personalised ceremonies to each and every couple.”  Clare, owner of The House Meadow (rustic outdoor wedding venue, Kent).    


If you would like a personalised Wedding Ceremony or Renewal of Vows please get in touch with me as soon as you can – the earlier the better, in order to research, plan and write your unique, bespoke script.    All the very best, Katie.  x

Top Advice for your Wedding

It’s so easy to get caught up in the moment and forget what’s really important when you’re planning your wedding day, isn’t it?

With the average cost of a wedding in the UK now estimated at between £18,000 and £20,000 (depending on which survey you read), it’s essential that you look at the budget you have available to you, and spend it wisely.  
When planning your wedding there really is no Right Way or Wrong Way …. just Your Way!  You should definitely stamp your own individuality onto the proceedings, with personal touches and ideas, for instance using an Independent Celebrant like me to write and conduct your ceremony (it’s more affordable than you might think).

But please don’t feel trapped into doing things in a certain manner either to please a family member or just because you think you ought to – spending your precious budget on superfluous items that nobody will remember just days, never mind years, later is just wasteful!  Now, if money were no object then we’d all be sitting on solid gold chairs with the finest French Champagne on tap … but that’s not a reality for most people.    Your Wedding should reflect the two of you as a couple, and the promises you’re making and keeping, and should not leave you exhausted, stressed and still paying off bills months later ….

Here’s my Top 10 of what I believe to be the most important aspects of a Wedding :

(1) A ceremony/reception venue that is flexible, not one that wants to steer you into having their “standard” wedding package.

(2) A photographer who has met and understands the two of you and will create beautiful images without making you feel awkward.

(3) Fresh flowers and bouquets made by a professional florist – I know they are more expensive but honestly it’s worth it (scrimp elsewhere!).

(4) A wedding dress/groom’s outfit that truly suits your body shape and feels comfortable to wear (you’ll be wearing it all day …) – this includes shoes!

(5) A sensible guest list that includes only those people that mean the absolute most to you!  With many wedding breakfasts costed per head, this is key.

(6) An element of your own personality on your wedding – whether this be home-made decorations, DIY favours or writing your own Wedding Vows.

(7) Someone to run the day for you; this could be the venue duty manager, wedding coordinator, wedding planner, your caterer, or a Toast Master.

(8) Simple, tasty food done well doesn’t have to be a la carte – sometimes a hog roast and a groaning table of delicious salads and home made cakes will do it!

(9) Music and entertainment that all your guests will appreciate and enjoy (and join in!) whether they are 2 or 102.

(10) Finally, the best bubbly you can afford for reception drinks and toasting, whether this is Asti Spumante, Prosecco or Veuve Cliquot!

Good luck with all your wedding planning, your wedding really is one of the most fun you’ll ever have amongst friends and family, and creates memories that will last forever!