It’s so easy to get caught up in the moment and forget what’s really important when you’re planning your wedding day, isn’t it?
With the average cost of a wedding in the UK now estimated at between £18,000 and £20,000 (depending on which survey you read), it’s essential that you look at the budget you have available to you, and spend it wisely. When planning your wedding there really is no Right Way or Wrong Way …. just Your Way! You should definitely stamp your own individuality onto the proceedings, with personal touches and ideas, for instance using an Independent Celebrant like me to write and conduct your ceremony (it’s more affordable than you might think).
But please don’t feel trapped into doing things in a certain manner either to please a family member or just because you think you ought to – spending your precious budget on superfluous items that nobody will remember just days, never mind years, later is just wasteful! Now, if money were no object then we’d all be sitting on solid gold chairs with the finest French Champagne on tap … but that’s not a reality for most people. Your Wedding should reflect the two of you as a couple, and the promises you’re making and keeping, and should not leave you exhausted, stressed and still paying off bills months later ….
Here’s my Top 10 of what I believe to be the most important aspects of a Wedding :
(1) A ceremony/reception venue that is flexible, not one that wants to steer you into having their “standard” wedding package.
(2) A photographer who has met and understands the two of you and will create beautiful images without making you feel awkward.
(3) Fresh flowers and bouquets made by a professional florist – I know they are more expensive but honestly it’s worth it (scrimp elsewhere!).
(4) A wedding dress/groom’s outfit that truly suits your body shape and feels comfortable to wear (you’ll be wearing it all day …) – this includes shoes!
(5) A sensible guest list that includes only those people that mean the absolute most to you! With many wedding breakfasts costed per head, this is key.
(6) An element of your own personality on your wedding – whether this be home-made decorations, DIY favours or writing your own Wedding Vows.
(7) Someone to run the day for you; this could be the venue duty manager, wedding coordinator, wedding planner, your caterer, or a Toast Master.
(8) Simple, tasty food done well doesn’t have to be a la carte – sometimes a hog roast and a groaning table of delicious salads and home made cakes will do it!
(9) Music and entertainment that all your guests will appreciate and enjoy (and join in!) whether they are 2 or 102.
(10) Finally, the best bubbly you can afford for reception drinks and toasting, whether this is Asti Spumante, Prosecco or Veuve Cliquot!
Good luck with all your wedding planning, your wedding really is one of the most fun you’ll ever have amongst friends and family, and creates memories that will last forever!