How to Personalise your Wedding Ceremony
One of the top wedding-related searches on Google is “Personalise your Wedding” as more and more couples strive to ensure their wedding day is absolutely true to them and their personalities. So why not start with a personal wedding ceremony?
The beauty of hiring an Independent Celebrant like me to write and conduct your Wedding Ceremony is that the content is absolutely yours to choose and own. It really is the perfect opportunity to completely personalise your day and make it different from everybody else’s!
Write your own Wedding Vows
To personalise things, couples should definitely try writing their own wedding vows to one another, but if you’ve no idea where to start there are tons of vow writing ideas to be found on the internet.
I send all my couples a long list of example Vows, Personal Promises and Ring Vows that they can use as a starting-off point to cherry pick and tweak or add their own twist to. Wedding Vows can be short, simple and poignant, or much more involved. They can be a few lines long or stretch to a full side of A4 paper! Remember you’ll be reading these words out to your spouse in front of your loved ones so if you’re prone to being emotional it might be best to keep them brief!
Personal Readings or Poetry
Why not ask a friend or relative to write you a bepoke poem? Alternatively they could read a particularly meaningful piece of prose or writing. If you have a Celebrant-led wedding ceremony you are not bound to those restrictive civil marriage laws as you would be with a Registrar so if you wanted a religious text, prayer or blessing then that’s fine too!
Ritual and Symbolism
to personalise your Wedding Ceremony – there are so many lovely ideas that you might want to consider for your own day and here are just a few examples that have been used in Ceremonies I’ve written and conducted for my own clients:
Here you can see one of my couples during their mini hand-fasting as part of their personal wedding ceremony at One Warwick Park in Tunbridge Wells. You can see their hand-fasting cord bound around their clasped hands.
After hearing that my couple got engaged in the Moroccan Desert and were going to be honeymooning in the Arabian Desert, we chose to incorporate this unity symbolism into their bespoke Wedding Ceremony. I started by pouring a foundation layer of sand at the bottom of the glass vase, after which the Bride and Groom layered the two other colours together in a pattern, signifying that their lives were now intertwined and impossible to part – like the grains of sand.
Unity Candle Ceremony
This symbolic candle lighting will make a ceremony really quite special, and is designed to celebrate the joining of two individual people in marriage, and two families coming together. The two taper candles are lit by family members, and passed to the Bride and Groom who join those two flames to light the central unity candle. These sets can be personalised especially for you and easily purchased online from a number of retailers.
If you would like a personalised wedding ceremony that’s written just for you and tells your own love story please do get in touch. Take a look at my Contact Me page or complete my Make an Enquiry form. I’d love to hear your ideas!